My Mother’s Legacy Despite knowing she was dying, she continued doing the things she enjoyed

Today is Mother’s Day and I am trying not to feel sad. But inevitably the memories of what I missed when my mother died  makes me want to cry.  Cancer took my mother when I was quite young.   At 11, I still needed her.  Life for me changed dramatically,  it was split into two parts. Before when I was in heaven and after my mother’s death when I felt I was flung into hell. From being loved and cherished, to being a nuisance and  abused.

But I am grateful for the brief time with her though.  Since I was 3 years, my mother knew she had cancer. It must have been hard to have had a double mastectomy  at the young age of 33. To know  she may die soon. That she would not be there to see her children grow up.  It must have taken great courage to  get on with living life. I don’t  ever remember her wailing or berating  her fate.  After the operation  she returned to work  and continued with normal life – cooking, shopping, taking  us for holidays and to the movies.

I Want A Mom That’ll Last Forever

 For the next 5 years I lived a carefree life till once again cancer invaded her uterus and she had to undergo a hysterectomy with chemotherapy thrown in.  From then on she was on a decline. But even then I don’t remember her lamenting about her bad fortune. She continued to do what she enjoyed, like going out to eat her favorite foods. When she felt like it she would just get my brother and myself dressed and off the 3 of us would go traipsing by bus and train just to eat her favorite Indian chats – Bhelpuri and Pani Puri. That is the one poignant memory of my mother, that despite what the situation is  you should continue to do things that you love. Life is short so try and enjoy it while it lasts

Steve Jobs  saidRemembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices of life.”

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