The Blessing of a Good Enough Mother Despite losing my mother while still a child, the memory of her love sustained me through difficult times

I consider myself lucky to have had a mother who really loved me. She was not perfect, she had her shortcomings like every human being but never once did I seriously doubt that we her kids were not an important part of her life.  For me having a good enough…

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Healing From The Past Means Feeling Fully Alive In The Present Recovering from an abusive childhood means that the pain and hurt of the past is no longer part of your psyche

Distrust is a major issue in the life of a survivor of child abuse. We are unable to trust anyone. We just don’t feel  we are truly worthy of being loved. Or that the person who is good to us always has ulterior motives. The hyper-vigilance is a constant in…

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Broken Mirrors, Twisted Realities As a result of not having kind, loving carers a person who has endured abuse suffers of identity problems. Healing from child abuse means developing your authentic self, you no longer need to be someone else

Most of us survivors of child abuse fail to develop a strong sense of identity. Most of the time we are confused about who we are because of we did not have a kind loving mirror reflecting goodness and worthiness. Not being loved, being hated, being disliked, being a nuisance,…

Continue reading: Broken Mirrors, Twisted Realities As a result of not having kind, loving carers a person who has endured abuse suffers of identity problems. Healing from child abuse means developing your authentic self, you no longer need to be someone else

Looking with Eyes of Love To become emotionally healthy we need another human to look at us with love, they need to be attuned to our feelings

For those of us born with normal eyesight, the eyes are the first thing we look to for emotional  feedback.  To know if someone is interested in us, gives a damn about us, we just need to see whether we are the focus of their gaze.  The most heartbreaking feeling…

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3 Important Steps Towards Becoming Mentally Healthy Changing my mindset to heal depression and ease the wounds of abuse

The 3 most important steps that helped me on my journey of healing and wholeness: Self-Love First – If you were not loved by  your parents, family or carers, you need to learn to love yourself. It may seem selfish to be doing things what you like and want. That…

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All Kids are Attention Divergent Instead of giving our kids time, attention and understanding we impose on them negative labels like ADD, ADHD which are harmful to their emotional well-being.

The natural inclination of children is movement, they want to run, jump, hop and play. They want to explore their surroundings and enjoy the beauty of the universe. They want to dream of space ships and talk to  plants and fairies.  Kids live in the moment and straitjacketing them with schedules…

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