Incest – How Women Enable Sexual Abuse in the Family I still find it hard to understand how women enable child sexual abuse by vehement accusations or complicit silence

Not even a month after my mother died, a cousin 10 years older than me – the Porn Addict caught me unawares and tried to drag me to the bedroom while I was alone in my home, on the first floor. I screamed, my paternal grandmother who lived on the…

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The Blessing of a Good Enough Mother Despite losing my mother while still a child, the memory of her love sustained me through difficult times

I consider myself lucky to have had a mother who really loved me. She was not perfect, she had her shortcomings like every human being but never once did I seriously doubt that we her kids were not an important part of her life.  For me having a good enough…

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Broken Mirrors, Twisted Realities As a result of not having kind, loving carers a person who has endured abuse suffers of identity problems. Healing from child abuse means developing your authentic self, you no longer need to be someone else

Most of us survivors of child abuse fail to develop a strong sense of identity. Most of the time we are confused about who we are because of we did not have a kind loving mirror reflecting goodness and worthiness. Not being loved, being hated, being disliked, being a nuisance,…

Continue reading: Broken Mirrors, Twisted Realities As a result of not having kind, loving carers a person who has endured abuse suffers of identity problems. Healing from child abuse means developing your authentic self, you no longer need to be someone else

Looking with Eyes of Love To become emotionally healthy we need another human to look at us with love, they need to be attuned to our feelings

For those of us born with normal eyesight, the eyes are the first thing we look to for emotional  feedback.  To know if someone is interested in us, gives a damn about us, we just need to see whether we are the focus of their gaze.  The most heartbreaking feeling…

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All Kids are Attention Divergent Instead of giving our kids time, attention and understanding we impose on them negative labels like ADD, ADHD which are harmful to their emotional well-being.

The natural inclination of children is movement, they want to run, jump, hop and play. They want to explore their surroundings and enjoy the beauty of the universe. They want to dream of space ships and talk to  plants and fairies.  Kids live in the moment and straitjacketing them with schedules…

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Surrogate Mothers & Gay Fathers Can gay fathers bring up mentally healthy kids who are securely attached?

Everybody these days is having a child or wants to have a child. Nothing wrong, it is a primal need to want to reproduce, the desire to have one’s own genetic copy becomes intense as we get older. Some like Bollywood director Karan Johar wanted a child as his old-age…

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Rocking the Cradle – When Women Work What happens to kids when mothers go to work. It is tough on them to have to be at the mercy of people who don’t really care. Not to mention what it does to their delicate psyches and mental health.

Rock-a-by baby On the tree top, When the wind blows The cradle will rock. When the bough breaks, The cradle will fall, And down will fall baby Cradle and all. I was in nursery when I learnt the above nursery rhyme. Like most kids I had a very vivid imagination,…

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My Mother’s Legacy Despite knowing she was dying, she continued doing the things she enjoyed

Today is Mother’s Day and I am trying not to feel sad. But inevitably the memories of what I missed when my mother died  makes me want to cry.  Cancer took my mother when I was quite young.   At 11, I still needed her.  Life for me changed dramatically,  it…

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