Damaged By A Narcissistic Evil Woman How my aunt’s narcissism damaged and literally broke me, physically, emotionally and spiritually

Dying must have been difficult for my mother, the pain of cancer must have been less than the pain of leaving behind two young kids. As a mother my constant thoughts are what will my son do if I am not around.  My mother tried to protect us, her kids…

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Hurtful Words Are Deeply Wounding Belittling Words Destroys A Child’s Self-Perceptions, Leading To Mental Health Issues

Words have the power to create a beautiful universe for our kids or totally destroy their perceptions of themselves and their world. I remember as a 11 year old being so hurt when my father berated me saying that I could never do anything right. Still struggling to come to…

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Parental Violence Distorts A Child’s View of God When kids are ill-treated, abused by their parents/primary caregivers their view of God gets distorted

Children come into this world pure, full of innocence,  believing  the world is a safe place, a happy place. Unfortunately, their parents carry the baggage of their past, “how their parents treated them.” Sadly majority of parents had inadequate caring while they were kids and end up repeating history and…

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Being Hated by Your Parent Growing up being hated by a parent/s is the most soul destroying legacy

I did not know what hate was when my mother was alive all I knew was love. Then she died and suddenly I was in Hate Land where I was mistreated and became the receptacle for the poisonous feelings of my father in particular. The sudden change in my life was…

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Parents Don’t Respect Their Kids’ Feelings But Expect Their Kids to Care For Them Parents complain that their kids don’t care about them but did they actually care about their kids when they were young

Many parents totally disregard their children’s feelings when they are young and then magically expect them to feel positive emotions when they are adults. All I remember of my childhood after my mother died was a father who never let me relax. Constantly, I had to be on call and…

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Forgiving & Turning the Other Cheek is Bad for Your Physical & Mental Health How turning the other cheek messed me up physically & mentally

Growing up Catholic, the concept of forgiveness was deeply ingrained in my psyche. According to the Bible, if someone slaps you on your right cheek, turn to him the other also. And how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I…

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Incest – How Women Enable Sexual Abuse in the Family I still find it hard to understand how women enable child sexual abuse by vehement accusations or complicit silence

Not even a month after my mother died, a cousin 10 years older than me – the Porn Addict caught me unawares and tried to drag me to the bedroom while I was alone in my home, on the first floor. I screamed, my paternal grandmother who lived on the…

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The Blessing of a Good Enough Mother Despite losing my mother while still a child, the memory of her love sustained me through difficult times

I consider myself lucky to have had a mother who really loved me. She was not perfect, she had her shortcomings like every human being but never once did I seriously doubt that we her kids were not an important part of her life.  For me having a good enough…

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Broken Mirrors, Twisted Realities As a result of not having kind, loving carers a person who has endured abuse suffers of identity problems. Healing from child abuse means developing your authentic self, you no longer need to be someone else

Most of us survivors of child abuse fail to develop a strong sense of identity. Most of the time we are confused about who we are because of we did not have a kind loving mirror reflecting goodness and worthiness. Not being loved, being hated, being disliked, being a nuisance,…

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Looking with Eyes of Love To become emotionally healthy we need another human to look at us with love, they need to be attuned to our feelings

For those of us born with normal eyesight, the eyes are the first thing we look to for emotional  feedback.  To know if someone is interested in us, gives a damn about us, we just need to see whether we are the focus of their gaze.  The most heartbreaking feeling…

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