Caring Matters
Love and belongingness are core human needs. What happens when this need is unmet or thwarted? We don’t feel good about ourselves. Being rejected can be heartbreaking. According to research, the intense pain of a [Read More]
The word ‘forgiveness’ triggers me. I spent a lot of time hating myself for stupidly believing the Christian dogma of forgiveness. My mental health and life were seriously impacted trying to live up to this [Read More]
My grandmother was the unofficial village healer. People would come for relief from various ailments. One of her main stock in trade remedies was getting rid of the supposed evil eye which according to her [Read More]
The last few months have been a euphoric high. I have not felt this good for a long time. Yes, I am healing and one activity has pushed my brain out of its lethargic, foggy [Read More]
I miss my mother even today, 40 years after she passed away. The pain has nearly faded but there will always be that loss – of not knowing. What it would have been to have [Read More]
Recently, I noticed that my ever-present back pain has nearly disappeared. I have suffered from scoliosis pain for nearly 40 years and this felt so good. I did not take any pain medication. So what [Read More]
Depression is like a big, black cloud that sucks our vitality and joy. Popping a pill or a combination of pills does not make depression go away. Sure, they do help in minimizing the pain [Read More]
Healing dislodges that false self or identity that was created as a defense against our toxic environment. For years we wore this mask and pretended, finally when we have it off it feels weird. As [Read More]
My Christian upbringing brainwashed me into thinking that empathy was the way to heaven. Images of Mother Teresa, the icon of empathy constantly waft into my consciousness. Too late I learned that Mother Teresa wasn’t [Read More]
According to the Object relations theory, our psyche/self develops in relation to others in the environment during childhood. Since the mother is the “primary object/ person’ that a child relates to, his perception of this [Read More]