Caring Matters
Currently, I am in a liminal space, an in-between state where my traumatized past self is nearly gone but my new personality is still in development. For years, I was frozen in time, a frightened, [Read More]
There is this saying, ‘I cried because I had no shoes, till I saw a man with no feet.” No doubt, our trauma is valid and we have a right to feel resentful, angry, sad, [Read More]
Survival in a dysfunctional family entails keeping our parents/caregivers happy. How they feel, what they want is what matters. We repress our true feelings, needs, desires in fear of being beaten, derided, or rejected. We [Read More]
‘Fascia is the organ of posture’ according to the inimitable Ida Rolf, creator of Rolfing Therapy. And it is very sensitive to the emotional firings of our brain. Growing up in a state of chronic [Read More]
Closure from our painful past is something that cannot be willed. However much you wish, you simply cannot just shut the door and stop the putrid stench wafting into your present existence – you just [Read More]
As far back as I can remember, I had trouble putting my needs first. I grew up in a home where I was taught it was selfish to think of myself ahead of others. I’d [Read More]
Most of us have grown up being shamed for expressing anger. With such an upbringing we learn to repress our anger and internalize the shame about our feelings. We are unable to manage or tolerate [Read More]
One of the most insidious effects of childhood trauma is arrested emotional development. The feeling of still being a child when chronologically you are an adult. One feels like a child play-acting in an adult [Read More]
Covert abuse is death by slow poison, administered by toxic dysfunctional human beings. Usually, it occurs in close relationships. Since, there is no physical violence, at first, you try to ignore it and try to [Read More]
I have been living with idiopathic scoliosis for nearly 40 years. It probably began soon after my mother died when I was 11 years. Though, the effects only showed up 2 years later. Not surprising, [Read More]