Caring Matters
Almost all, childhood trauma survivors have a poor/ unhealthy self-concept. We believe we aren’t good enough or worthy of receiving the good things in life. My interest in self-concept was ignited when I chanced upon [Read More]
Toxic parents should elicit moral disgust. It’s disgusting when those who bring a child into this world, abuse, neglect, and maltreat their helpless dependent little ones. However, as the noted author Pia Melody has pointed [Read More]
King Charles’ cancer diagnosis did come as a shocker for many. Despite our medical advances, cancer is often fatal in the long run. Thus, the news of someone having cancer brings on a sense of [Read More]
I feel I am inching toward the state of self-actualization. Gone are the days when I woke up being sucked by rumination of the past. Instead, my thoughts are focused on the desire to become [Read More]
Relentless regret is often felt by survivors of childhood trauma. Particularly after we have managed to distance ourselves from the source of our pain, we get into get stuck in rumination loops of – if [Read More]
Memory reconsolidation is an important aspect of trauma healing. Remembering, accepting, making sense, and shifting those painful memories where they belong – in the past. You don’t forget traumatic memories, however, it moves into long-term [Read More]
Those early interpersonal interactions with our primary caregivers are the building block of identity formation. They are the look-glass through which we form our core beliefs (lovable/good-enough or unlovable/defective) which in turn molds our mindset(mental [Read More]
An integral part of feeling human is that sense of belongingness. We are innately programmed to want to belong to something/someone beyond ourselves. At the core of belongingness are acceptance, support, and protection. Prolonged lack [Read More]
One important step in my healing process is becoming wise about human nature. It has meant changing how I view the world and my relationships. There were so many untruths from my childhood I have [Read More]
Currently, I am in a liminal space, an in-between state where my traumatized past self is nearly gone but my new personality is still in development. For years, I was frozen in time, a frightened, [Read More]