Caring Matters
Childhood trauma causes the neurocircuitry of our brain to go awry. Instead of growth, our default state is survival in hostile conditions. Developmentally, the emotional part of our brain gets arrested at that time period. [Read More]
I have been living with idiopathic scoliosis for nearly 40 years. It probably began soon after my mother died when I was 11 years. Though, the effects only showed up 2 years later. Not surprising, [Read More]
Is it a look of love or hatred? Can I trust this person or not? Will he/she be the right partner for me? How do we make these calculated choices? Your sensory system takes in [Read More]
As another year comes to an end, I feel optimistic that the New Year will be much better. I am in a better place mentally and physically. It’s been nearly 3 years since I have [Read More]
I have written two posts on armoring, the first as protective body armor against sexual molestation: and the second post, ocular armor – our first line of defense. We psychically shut our eyes to the [Read More]
We, survivors of childhood trauma, have been programmed to take on the shit of the family. To survive we have to totally annihilate our needs, feelings, and dreams. Our life is not our own but [Read More]
Preschool is an important step in your child’s life. It is your child’s first foray into the world alone. And this nonetheless shapes his/her view of the external environment for life. Preparing for this transition [Read More]
Research has proven that our relationships play a pivotal role in our physical and mental wellbeing. We strive for connection, and we yearn to feel felt by the people close to us. Relationships interact with [Read More]
In general survivors of childhood trauma have trouble negotiating adult relationships. Either we push people away by erecting defensive walls or we become a magnet for cunning predators We are confused whether a person cares [Read More]
Healing My Life from Incest to Joy is a memoir of the choices I made and experiences that helped me heal from childhood trauma. The book offers hope to survivors of child sexual abuse Breaking [Read More]