Caring Matters
Trauma forced me to stop feeling how I felt. The pain, and hurt were too much. It felt too uncomfortable to feel that I stopped feeling. Not just my emotions but also, who I was [Read More]
Are you the one always giving in or accommodating the needs of your family, friends, or sometimes even perfect strangers? Do you always let your friend or partner always pick the movie you will watch? [Read More]
Love and belongingness are core human needs. What happens when this need is unmet or thwarted? We don’t feel good about ourselves. Being rejected can be heartbreaking. According to research, the intense pain of a [Read More]
The word ‘forgiveness’ triggers me. I spent a lot of time hating myself for stupidly believing the Christian dogma of forgiveness. My mental health and life were seriously impacted trying to live up to this [Read More]
The last few months have been a euphoric high. I have not felt this good for a long time. Yes, I am healing and one activity has pushed my brain out of its lethargic, foggy [Read More]
Recently, I noticed that my ever-present back pain has nearly disappeared. I have suffered from scoliosis pain for nearly 40 years and this felt so good. I did not take any pain medication. So what [Read More]
Depression is like a big, black cloud that sucks our vitality and joy. Popping a pill or a combination of pills does not make depression go away. Sure, they do help in minimizing the pain [Read More]
Healing dislodges that false self or identity that was created as a defense against our toxic environment. For years we wore this mask and pretended, finally when we have it off it feels weird. As [Read More]
The theory of armoring was introduced by Austrian psychoanalyst Wilhelm Reich and was further developed by Alexander Lowen. According to Reich, psycho-emotional conflicts that are suppressed end up being locked up in the muscular tissue [Read More]
According to the Object relations theory, our psyche/self develops in relation to others in the environment during childhood. Since the mother is the “primary object/ person’ that a child relates to, his perception of this [Read More]