Caring Matters
I feel I am inching toward the state of self-actualization. Gone are the days when I woke up being sucked by rumination of the past. Instead, my thoughts are focused on the desire to become [Read More]
Expectations can keep us stuck. Hoping for some outcome, despite clear indications – that’s not what will happen can lead to frustration and resentment. I have been trying to free myself from my misplaced expectations [Read More]
There is no doubt that we live in a muscle culture. We are obsessed with muscle and spend a great deal of our lives building and developing muscle. In fact, from gyms to supplement companies, [Read More]
Relentless regret is often felt by survivors of childhood trauma. Particularly after we have managed to distance ourselves from the source of our pain, we get into get stuck in rumination loops of – if [Read More]
Memory reconsolidation is an important aspect of trauma healing. Remembering, accepting, making sense, and shifting those painful memories where they belong – in the past. You don’t forget traumatic memories; however, it moves into long-term [Read More]
Schemas are mental maps we unconsciously form as we grow up. Right from birth onwards, our brain creates schemas or ‘cognitive frameworks’ to categorize and organize semantic memory. They help us quickly navigate similar future [Read More]
As one heals from childhood trauma one realizes that much of our personality is a trauma response. How we relate to people and situations are the coping patterns from our dysfunctional childhood. The survival strategies [Read More]
Parental gaslighting is fairly common. Parents may gaslight their children without even realizing it – it’s a normal thing. The seemingly innocuous lies to get our kids to obey/comply are not considered gaslighting. Parents believe [Read More]
Perseverance is the critical piece in any success story. Usually, no one achieves incredible things on the first try. All great innovators, and achievers struggled for many years to reach their goals. Despite many setbacks, [Read More]
Disruption of the attachment bond is the most common cause of childhood trauma. The people who were supposed to love and care for us instead harmed us. Being treated like shit by one’s own family [Read More]