Caring Matters
We are programmed and groomed since childhood to believe things that are not really true or are inherently false. Our parents, caregivers, and the school system work at creating obedient and pliable humans who will [Read More]
A child’s brain development is dependent on repetitive attuned communication. Yet many parents fail miserably in consistently relating to their child in an honest healthy manner. They confuse their kids with conflicting messages thus putting [Read More]
Oprah has been my idol for a long time. I credit her shows for getting me on to the path of recovery from childhood abuse. Moreso, sexual abuse. It was cathartic watching the Oprah show [Read More]
A child learns to regulate her emotions only through the process of co-regulation. And, touch is a powerful way to calm a distressed, sad, angry child. When parents respond to a child’s distress by lifting [Read More]
Triangulation is a common mode of interaction in dysfunctional families. And children become unwitting players in the toxic drama games of the adults in their life. They get sucked into playing roles or scripts their [Read More]
The favorite line of most estranged parents utters ‘even though I did the best for my kids, yet they hate me‘. Or ‘how can they be so ungrateful for all I have done?’ That is [Read More]
The root of Complex-post-traumatic stress disorder ( C-PTSD) is inescapable fear. As children, the only option in dealing with dangerous predators aka abusive parents/caregivers is freezing – numbing out, dissociating not reacting. Becoming frozen zombies [Read More]
Survival in a dysfunctional family entails keeping our parents/caregivers happy. How they feel, and what they want is what matters. We repress our true feelings, needs, and desires in fear of being beaten, derided, or [Read More]
Thanks to my neuroplastic brain, life feels much better. I have come a long way. The pain, confusion, and utter despair have given way to feeling hopeful about the future. It is not something that [Read More]
‘Fascia is the organ of posture’ according to the inimitable Ida Rolf, creator of Rolfing Therapy. And it is very sensitive to the emotional firings of our brain. Growing up in a state of chronic [Read More]