Caring Matters
Most survivors of childhood trauma struggle to heal from their abusive past. Growing up, we try to show we are strong and unfazed by what is happening, we numb and blank out the abuse. Then [Read More]
The pain of the past, unfortunately, keeps you stuck in a time zone of terror and fear. It splits your still-developing self into fragments. You adopt a coping mechanism that helps you survive. You deny [Read More]
Most of us have not been lucky to have had good mirroring when we were growing up. We were constantly admonished, reprimanded, undermined, and forced to submit to the dictates of the adults in our [Read More]
I cringe every time I see a little child singing like a nightingale or twirling like a graceful gazelle on the numerous talent shows on television. The audience is rapturous and the media goes gaga over [Read More]
I am glad I grew up with the tradition of Santa Claus. My brother and I would tell my mother what we wanted for X-mas and she’d say she would call Santa from her [Read More]
For those of us recovering from child abuse, our sense of self is distorted. We literally don’t exist but to cater to the twisted expectations of our toxic families. Then one day we wake up [Read More]
Healing from childhood abuse entails rewiring our brain from fear reactivity to one of feeling safe. This can happen through limbic revision. The rewiring of our limbic system, the part of the brain that controls [Read More]
Once upon a time taking care of kids was second nature. However, over time I have come to resent anyone asking about looking out for their kids. Expecting free service as if child care is [Read More]
After a long time, I really enjoyed watching a movie. Christopher Robin, the live-action Disney movie about Winnie-the-Pooh, transported my son and me to the magical world of childhood fantasy. Thankfully, the movie sticks to simplistic storytelling [Read More]
ACEs studies usually focus on the bigger, more tangible adverse experiences in a child’s life. However, there are a number of minor stressors that may not be really traumatic for kids not going through significant [Read More]