Caring Matters
After years of being so tuned to every nuance, tone, word, and action of others, I am slowly beginning to feel free of the expectations of others. I am no longer hypervigilant. I don’t feel [Read More]
“The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation”, writes the noted child trauma therapist Bruce Perry. We, humans, are social [Read More]
With all the brouhaha going on about the 20th death anniversary of Princess Diana, I can’t but help feel a wee bit nostalgic about my own mom’s death. Her sons Prince William and Prince Harry [Read More]
Being nice to someone does not require great efforts or big sacrifices, however, we miss out on creating change in our world. Being nice is so simple yet we have been programmed by our society [Read More]
Dying must have been difficult for my mother, the pain of cancer must have been less than the pain of leaving behind two young kids. As a mother, my constant thoughts are about what will [Read More]
I did not know what hate was when my mother was alive all I knew was love. Then she died and suddenly I was in HateLand where I was mistreated and became the receptacle for [Read More]
Growing up Catholic, the concept of forgiveness was deeply ingrained in my psyche. According to the Bible, if someone slaps you on your right cheek, turn to him the other also. And how many times shall [Read More]
Mistrust is a major issue in the life of a survivor of child abuse. We are unable to trust anyone. We just don’t feel we are truly worthy of being loved. Or that the person [Read More]
Those of us born with normal eyesight, the eyes are the first thing we look to for emotional feedback. To know if someone is interested in us and gives a damn about us, we just [Read More]
The 3 most important steps that helped me become more and more mentally healthy. On my journey of healing and wholeness, I’ve had to be let go of beliefs that were indoctrinated into my mindset. [Read More]