Caring Matters
Growing up in a dysfunctional home, one had to adapt and adjust to the chaos all around. Subconsciously, we adopted coping strategies or defense mechanisms to survive our abnormal situations. Often these habitual patterns of [Read More]
Critical thinking is the careful and intentional analysis of facts in order to make better decisions. As parents, it is vital we hone this skill in our children. The reason why most smart people fail [Read More]
One important step in my healing process is becoming wise about human nature. It has meant changing how I view the world and my relationships. There were so many untruths from my childhood I have [Read More]
To optimally function in the world, one must be adept at inferring the mental states of other people. We need to understand they are different from our own. This cognitive mechanism is known as the [Read More]
Life does not always go as planned. That’s why we need to train our kids to be anti-fragile. To deal with an unpredictable world, one always has to have a plan B, C, D, etc. [Read More]
New-age author Eckhart Tolle, conjured up the term pain-body, to explain the repressed emotional pain viscerally carried around inside a person. Most of us carry some kind of pain-body which is manifested as physical and [Read More]
It is common for parents to dismiss a child’s reactivity or non-reactivity as ‘oh she is in one of her moods” or ‘he is just going through a moody phase’. Believing in due course their child [Read More]
Currently, I am in a liminal space, an in-between state where my traumatized past self is nearly gone but my new personality is still in development. For years, I was frozen in time, a frightened, [Read More]
One very important parenting skill is understanding your child’s temperament. Knowing your child’s unique behavioral style as in the way he/she experiences and reacts to the world helps the parent-child bond flourish. Sometimes, your child’s [Read More]
There is this saying, ‘I cried because I had no shoes, till I saw a man with no feet.” No doubt, our trauma is valid and we have a right to feel resentful, angry, sad, [Read More]