Caring Matters
Do Prince William and Harry need to have a statue of their mother, Princess Diana? As adults, they need to stop publicly idealizing their mother and acknowledge that like most people, their mother far from [Read More]
Understanding and learning to negotiate consent is a critical life skill. Knowing one’s rights and boundaries can help kids navigate tricky situations. And the earlier kids learn to practice consent the better able they will [Read More]
A child’s brain and body are not fully developed at birth. Besides, food, water, and shelter, a child needs attuned relational care of another human being. Unfortunately, many parents are still clueless as to what [Read More]
As parents, many of us fail to provide unconditional positive regard – the one ingredient that is vital for the development of an authentic and truly happy human. We rarely accept our kids as they [Read More]
We are programmed and groomed since childhood to believe things that are not really true or are inherently false. Our parents, caregivers, and the school system work at creating obedient and pliable humans who will [Read More]
A child’s brain development is dependent on repetitive attuned communication. Yet many parents fail miserably in consistently relating to their child in an honest healthy manner. They confuse their kids with conflicting messages thus putting [Read More]
Oprah has been my idol for a long time. I credit her shows for getting me on to the path of recovery from childhood abuse. Moreso, sexual abuse. It was cathartic watching the Oprah show [Read More]
A child learns to regulate her emotions only through the process of co-regulation. And, touch is a powerful way to calm a distressed, sad, angry child. When parents respond to a child’s distress by lifting [Read More]
Triangulation is a common mode of interaction in dysfunctional families. And children become unwitting players in the toxic drama games of the adults in their life. They get sucked into playing roles or scripts their [Read More]
Survival in a dysfunctional family entails keeping our parents/caregivers happy. How they feel, and what they want is what matters. We repress our true feelings, needs, and desires in fear of being beaten, derided, or [Read More]