Caring Matters
A child learns to regulate her emotions only through the process of co-regulation. And, touch is a powerful way to calm a distressed, sad, angry child. When parents respond to a child’s distress by lifting [Read More]
Triangulation is a common mode of interaction in dysfunctional families. And children become unwitting players in the toxic drama games of the adults in their life. They get sucked into playing roles or scripts their [Read More]
Survival in a dysfunctional family entails keeping our parents/caregivers happy. How they feel, and what they want is what matters. We repress our true feelings, needs, and desires in fear of being beaten, derided, or [Read More]
Recently confirmed SCOTUS, Amy Coney Barrett is also supermom or so it seems. Besides being a highly accomplished and successful career woman, she is also mother to 7 kids – aged 8 to 18. What’s [Read More]
Raising kids to be rejection-proof is critical for their mental health and happiness. And it is a teachable attribute that should be instilled when they are young. Life can never be one smooth sailing trip [Read More]
As far back as I can remember, I had trouble putting my needs first. I grew up in a home where I was taught it was selfish to think of myself ahead of others. I’d [Read More]
Most of us have grown up being shamed for expressing anger. With such an upbringing we learn to repress our anger and internalize the shame about our feelings. We are unable to manage or tolerate [Read More]
Kellyanne Conway’s daughter Claudia called out her parents for failing to care and pay attention to their kids. In her rage-filled social media rants, she announced she is seeking emancipation from her parents – Kelllyanne [Read More]
Parenting is akin to walking on a tight-rope – maintaining the savvy act of being in control without being overly controlling. After all, we want our kids to become autonomous and independent human beings. Enough [Read More]
One of the most insidious effects of childhood trauma is arrested emotional development. The feeling of still being a child when chronologically you are an adult. One feels like a child play-acting in an adult [Read More]