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title: Mindfulness versus Mind Kindness
date: 2017-05-03T15:15:54Z
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Today, everybody seems to be into mindfulness. In my search for that magic pill to heal my emotional pain, I have tried to put my mind to it, but my mind just does not seem [comfortable with it.](https://mindkindmom.com/wp-content/uploads/wp-mfa-exports/post/meditation-may-aggravate-trauma-try-mindful-action.md)

![woman_Mindfulness_Mind_Kindness_love_caring](https://i.imgur.com/p6wafyB.jpg)
**Mindfulness can help calm you, but healthy relationships are what heal**

### Abuse & Meditative Practises

Those of us who have been abused are at times in such horrible emotional pain from the thoughts and memories that sitting alone and watching our thoughts is very traumatic. The whole idea is to forget about our pain. That is why there are so many addicts around, all trying to numb their pain.

After a few attempts, I gave up because it only made me feel worse. So I began researching about the topic and here is what [Josh Korda, a popular meditation ](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/josh-korda/meditation-can-hold-feeli_b_7840596.html)teacher, says about the limitation of meditation: **‘Meditative practices performed in isolation can help us recognize and process our emotional states, but true healing lies in those most vulnerable moments, when someone looks us in the eye, sees our pain and provides us with the mirror we so deeply seek.’**

### I have done a comparative study on Mindfulness and Mind Kindness. And guess which is better?

### A few links on the pitfalls of mindfulness.

- [Is Mindfulness Making Us Ill](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/23/is-mindfulness-making-us-ill)
- [Mindfulness backlash: Could meditation be bad for your health?](http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/11942320/Mindfulness-backlash-Meditation-bad-for-your-health.html)
- [Mindfulness isn’t going to cure our mental health crisis, and we need to stop pretending that it could](http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/comment/mindfulness-isnt-going-to-cure-our-mental-health-crisis-and-we-need-to-stop-pretending-like-it-could-10250011.html)
- [When Meditation Worsens Depression or Anxiety](http://mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/03/14/when-meditation-worsens-depression-or-anxiety/)
- [New Data on the Adverse Effects of Meditation and Mindfulness](https://www.madinamerica.com/2017/06/new-data-adverse-effects-meditation-mindfulness/)

### Simple Acts of Kindness – Give it a try 


Practicing kindness is easy, and it helps ease our pain of loneliness. We cannot be kind in a vacuum. You require people. Being in a loving relationship is what really heals childhood trauma.

My only advice is don’t forget to be kind to yourself, nurture yourself, and know how to stand up for yourself. Healing happens when we let go, not by focusing on something inward. We outgrow our past when we look outward with hope, kindness, and love for ourselves and others.

#### Image Source: [Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/en/woman-buddhist-meditate-girl-wat-481760/)

## Further Reading:

[The Post-Traumatic Growth Guidebook: Practical Mind-Body Tools to Heal Trauma, Foster Resilience and Awaken Your Potential](https://amzn.to/3q7NUuo) – Arielle Schwartz

[Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster](https://amzn.to/3WDqSI2) – Linda Graham

[Kintsugi: Finding Strength in Imperfection](https://amzn.to/3WF4M84) – Céline SANTINI

[Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life](https://amzn.to/3N4lJFK) – Dacher Keltner





[Life Is in the Transitions: Mastering Change at Any Age](https://amzn.to/45CGgZh) – Bruce Feiler









[Manifest Your Destiny: The Nine Spiritual Principles for Getting Everything You Want](https://amzn.to/3WML9uP) – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer